At a recent social gathering a group of us asked a friend how her sister, a first time mom, was managing her twin toddlers—two bright-eyed and beautiful 12 month old girls whose photos regularly lit up our Facebook feeds. “She’s doing fabulous,” our friend told us excitedly, “and the girls are just thriving!” We were happy to hear this and leaned in to hear more, after all there is a sort of curiosity as to how mothers who have been doubly blessed deal with their two, where most of us have…